Going Overboard by Eeddiekhan

Everyone wants to be relevant but sometimes we go a little overboard. We do or say things to get the attention, to steal the show, to stay in the spotlight a little bit longer. There are times we actually do have something important to say but the fact that we do is never enough. Communication is an art. It is twenty percent what you know and eighty percent how you feel about it, how you deliver it and how others feel about it too and if you ever want to drive home your point, you have got to apply wisdom in your approach.
You are at liberty to say whatever you want. It is okay to be blunt. People are known to be blunt, you wouldn’t be the first. It is your call. Some people say it as it is even though they may not get the desired results. Words out. Who cares? Think about this. Words are like sugar and just like sugar, words ought to be refined in order to make it more absorbable.
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You could be in a situation whereby your opinions or beliefs are being challenged, you do not have to fly off the handle no matter how annoying it can get. Some of us cannot even hide the emotions. It is very difficult staying calm under pressure. Our faces become red and flushed with anger but before you make that move, just breathe. Take your time. Do not be in a hurry to drop the bomb. You may want to answer spitefully out of impatience or resentment but you might end up pushing people away from you which may not have been part of the original plan.
I am all about channelling one’s energy towards some positivity. Consistently working on oneself. The magic won’t happen overnight. I’m still learning how to appear and stay calm myself and everyday there seem to be a new hurdle to jump. There are people whose calling is to get on your nerves. These people do not care whether you are right, they are out to prove you wrong. Don’t stress it.
The experts say that to stay calm, it helps when you count from one to ten. Well, this doesn’t work for me. I only end up digging up ten ways to put a man down. One. A machine gun. Two. Working tools. Three. Guitar strings. Four. Chain saw. Five. Fire. Six. Release the snakes. Seven. Etc and for every time I get upset, I discover ten new ways but I am not a disciple of violence so instead I become the Queen of remixes. In just fifteen seconds, many songs come to mind and I smile like Hillary on the hot seat.(Don’t lie, you do it too!)
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DJ Khaled pops up in my head and I go:
”All I do is grin grin grin no matter what. Got Gucci on my mind. Making money in my prime. Looking pretty ain’t no crime so when you see me, everybody’s hands go up and they stay there…”
Chamillionaire shows up and I go:
”They see me rolling, they hating. Patrolling, they tryna catch me riding dirty. Tryna catch me riding dirty. Tryna catch me riding dirty. Tryna catch me riding dirty.
 My business sold out. They hate it. They hoping that they catch me riding dirty. Tryna catch me riding dirty…”
And then, there is my personal favourite:
”Y’all won’t make me lose my mind up in here. Up in here. Y’all won’t make me go all out. Up in here. Up in here. Y’all won’t make me act a fool. Up in here. Up in here. Y’all won’t make me lose my cool. Up in here. Up in here.” Yea, DMX in the building and no, Baa baa black sheep is NOT on my playlist.
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People have different ways of dealing with their anger and two-faced ‘paddies’.
I smile and nod meanwhile I may be negotiating your abduction in my head. Kidding. In reality, no one wants to be bossed around, no one wants to be made a fool of and no one likes to be stepped on like rag.
 Say what you want but garnish it with a little bit of respect. Be open minded too. Liberty comes with responsibility and if it is your desire to inspire others to action or induce others to do that which they must, learn to be likeable. Yes, learn. People pay more attention to those they find appealing.
Think of someone who you do not want to ever be friends with, someone you will never vote for, someone you never want to sit at the same table or share a ride with, someone who will never have your kidney. Newsflash. While you are avoiding those kind of people, someone somewhere may be avoiding you probably because of the same reasons. The internet is such a good thing. Social media has taken over connecting people from everywhere and suddenly everyone has been presented with the opportunity to say what is on their mind. Thing is, there will always be people who misuse and abuse the privilege given them by going overboard often disrespecting others, unapologetically poking fun at other people, deliberately being impolite and even nosy in other people’s businesses.
This is totally uncalled for. If you want to remain relevant, let your presence impact positively on another. Respect will come naturally. You just have to be willing to give in order to receive.
The last question in the second U.S. Presidential Debate 2016 resonated in me. That question echoed my thoughts. Unfortunately, I am used to seeing opponents scratch each others eyes out so it came as a surprise to me when both Candidates were asked to name one positive thing that they respect in one another and they did. One talked about the other being a fighter, never giving up, not quitting and that was a trait he admired. The other complimented her opponent’s children as being devoted, an attribute they must have gotten from their father. I admired their honesty. Away from the politics and all the bickering, I was moved.
You see, it is very easy to forget our human side especially during a combat.
 In my opinion, it doesn’t matter if we disagree or quibble over pennies. We can’t all think the same way, act the same way or want the same things. We are just individuals on a journey.
The course is far greater and more important than our individual differences or already laid out strategies and in order to make it work, we must be open, less judgmental and criticize constructively when it is necessary. Being rude is totally crude.
 You don’t have to go all out trying to make the other person look or feel bad just to buttress a point. You don’t have to annihilate your opponent every chance you get. Adopt a different strategy. Apply wisdom. Try getting rid of your enemy by making him your friend. Your fortress will be made stronger if you can find an ally. Don’t you think so?
Often times in our lives we are cautioned against underestimating the opponent but we fail to acknowledge that that does not in any way mean we should throw away the element of respect.
Haven’t battles been fought and won without the sound of guns? How hard is it to just be rational and nice at the same time?


https://treasureinhearts.com/2016/10/11/273/