Who we are, is what we believe. As you were growing up, you may have been told over and over that you were good at doing something. You believed it.
Similarly, if you constantly tell people they are doing a good job, they will eventually believe it even if, in the beginning, they have doubts about their ability. In essence, we become what we believe.Attitudinal change speaks volume of our capability in life.
You may find at some point in your life that you have a position where
you can influence another person or persons to have a greater belief in
themselves than they do at present, or are people who you realize need a
little boost in their own self-esteem. You may be in the position to
influence how your own child feels about their abilities. This isn?t
just a one-time task either for your counsel and encouragement will be
called on for many, many years in the future. This is a particular kind
of role that requires you to support your child as they develop new
skills and not to criticize them if they should at first fail. This is a
special role that needs patience, encouraging words followed by
positive actions that help them build their confidence as they attempt
to conquer a new skill.
This assistance in the continued growth of self-esteem is also paramount
in a working environment. It does not really matter what kind of work
you do, or if you are in a leadership role or not. One of the most
valued support mechanisms is that of your colleagues. When a colleague
tells you that you are developing your trade really well, for example
when you are an apprentice and receive praise from a full journeyman,
you take it to heart. This kind of influence and praise not only makes
you feel that your abilities are being recognized but that you are worth
speaking about from your own kind. If you believe you can achieve it
Extract from Catherine Pulsifer, © 1998 edited by Femi
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