You love him. He loves you. You feel like he’s the one. So how do you
know if you’re moving toward marriage? These six indicators should clue
you in.
1. You talk about a specific future that involves each other.
Sure, you two have mentioned that you both want kids, one of the things you must know about each other before you get engaged,
but have you gone into more detail? When your boyfriend says to you,
“I’d like to have kids a few years after you finish your master’s,” he’s
talking about a future with you, and not just some great beyond where
he has a theoretical wife with whom he can make babies.
2. You speak in “when”s, not “if”s.
If your guy starts sentences with, “When we get married,” he’s made up
his mind: He wants you to be his wife. You may not get engaged the next
day, or even the next year, but if your relationship stays on its
current trajectory after a statement like that, your marriage will have
that man in it.
3. It’s not weird to talk about your one-day wedding.
Similarly, when marriage is a foregone conclusion, you don’t feel funny letting him know that you read Save the Date every
day or that you must have peonies at your wedding. It’s a very good
sign if he’s talking about your wedding, too, but don’t worry if he’s
not–as long as he’s happy to hear you chat about it, you’re in good
shape.
4. You’re each considered a part of the other’s family.
Your boyfriend’s whole family is going on vacation. If you’re heading
toward marriage, it wouldn’t be so crazy if they invited you to join
(though if you’re not invited, it doesn’t mean you’re not going to marry
your guy–I wasn’t included in Paul’s giant family cruise…seven years
into dating him). Or if you’re all going out for your mom’s birthday,
there’s no question (in your parents’ mind, yours, or your boyfriend’s)
that he’s coming along.
5. Your friends think of him as their friend, and his buddies consider you their buddy, too.
No worries if you each have a pal or two the other can’t stand. For the
most part, though, your guy should be in with your friends and you
should be down with his. This is crucial because neither of you should
have to give up friendships during marriage, and it’s so much easier to
maintain those relationships if you each get along with the other’s
crew.
6. You can picture yourselves standing together at the altar.
A good friend of mine had been dating a guy for about a year-and-a-half
when she confessed to me that when she envisioned her wedding day, she
couldn’t imagine her current boyfriend there. That was telling. If you
can’t get your mind to a ceremony with your man, there’s no way you’ll
get your body there. (They broke up, and about two years later, she’s
engaged to someone else with whom she was easily able to picture herself
exchanging vows!)
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